Notice: Undefined index: use_custom_image in /home/wpfsi1/public_html/wp-content/plugins/custom-about-author/display-about-author-block.php on line 134
Many older people have strong attachments to their homes related to the length of residence. It often represents the place where they raised their families and a lifetime of memories. It also connects them to an array of familiar persons such as neighbors, nearby places and community services. In addition, the home can represent for them a sense of economic security for the future, especially for those who have paid off their mortgages. It is usually their most valuable financial asset. The home can also symbolize a sense of independence in that they are still able to live on his or her own. No one wants to feel as though they are unable to take care of themselves, and moving will force them to admit they need help and must accept assistance.
Regular conversations about what the future holds are important and best done when they are in a good state of mind. No matter the age of your parent, this is an important conversation that needs to be had. It is difficult for both parent and child. If you open the lines of communication early, it becomes less stressful when the topic arises. Parents tend to hide things from their adult children because they don’t want to scare them or become a burden. Yet, if they see you are trying to help and are genuinely concerned about their well being it can make a huge difference.
It may be inevitable to have the conversation about assisted living or aging in place with help. The ideal time to talk about options is before there is a need. But more often, we see changes that spark the conversation. There are many warning signs that you can look out for. If you notice some of them, then it is definitely time to talk. They may include:
- Unexplained bruising
- Difficulty with walking, balance and mobility
- Uncertainty and confusion when performing once-familiar tasks
- Forgetfulness
- Noticeable decline in grooming habits and personal care
- Stacks of unopened mail or an overflowing mailbox
- Poor diet or weight loss
- Loss of interest in hobbies and activities
- Changes in mood or extreme mood swings
If the parent begins to show signs of warming up to the topic, be empathetic but urge action. Don’t stop at just discussing it make, an appointment to visit a senior facility. Talk with someone about the options they may have and come to a decision. It will be a process, but worth it in the end for both parent and child.
WPFSI’s Circle of Life program can help West Philly community members learn to handle some of these issues – from how to find community resources, working with the family members and even options for providing home loans to keep a home in good repair and help make an aging in place more possible while preserving family assets. The next Circle of Life presentation will be held on Thursday, December 19th from 10-11:30am. It will be held at West Philadelphia Senior Community Center, 1016 N 41st, Philadelphia, PA 19104.
By Shonte D. Eley, Administrative Assistant for WPFSI. She has been in the Nonprofit industry for over 10 years and has her Master’s in Public Administration.
Leave A Comment